5 Ways to Get Your New Cat to Like You

Wondering how to get a cat to like you? You're not alone. Because let's face it: winning over a cat is different than charming a dog. While connecting with an animal who doesn't speak the same language and plays by their own rules can be challenging, it doesn’t have to be impossible.

Here are 5 ways to get your new cat to like you, according to cat behavior experts — all grounded in science, empathy, and proven techniques used by professionals at furpetvo.com.

Long-haired white cat being gently pet on the face, calm and relaxed expression

1. Respect Their Space

Just like you appreciate having a quiet space to retreat to, so does your cat, says Heather Alvey, a certified cat behavior consultant and owner of Felidae Behavior Consulting. Before bringing your cat home, set up a safe space just for them.

"This room shouldn’t be too big and should contain everything your cat or kitten needs: hiding spaces, beds, perches, food, water, litter, and toys," Alvey says.

You can gradually allow them more access to the rest of the house, but always ensure they can retreat to their safe space whenever they need to.

2. Let Them Initiate Contact

Have you ever noticed that cats seem to make a beeline to the one person in the room least interested in them? While you're on your hands and knees pleading for their attention, they're already cozying up to someone who is completely ignoring them.

"Cats like to be in control of their environment," explains Susan Nilson, cat and dog training and behavior specialist and founder of The Cat and Dog House. "When the cat can control the interaction, it makes them feel safe and secure."

While Nilson doesn’t suggest outright ignoring your cat, she does recommend a “cool” approach — letting your cat initiate contact.

Offer your hand. If they approach or rub against it, they’re open to interaction. Even a glance in your direction is a good sign, Nilson assures.
End on a high note. Always finish interactions before your cat shows signs of stress — like flattened ears, tail flicking, or sudden stillness.

Munchkin cat gently sniffing a human hand held at nose level, relaxed posture

3. Become Fluent in Cat Body Language

Cats might not speak English, but they're fluent in feline body language. To truly connect with your cat, you have to learn their language — and respect what they’re telling you.

Positive Body Language (“Yes, Go Ahead” Signals)

Slow blinking
Relaxed body posture — like lying down with belly exposed
Tail held high with a slight curve at the tip
Purring (in context — not always a sign of contentment)
Rubbing against you or head-butting

Negative Body Language (“No, Thank You” Signals)

Dilated pupils or intense staring
Flattened or rapidly twitching ears
Stiff or crouched body posture
Hissing, growling, or yowling
A swishing, twitching, or flicking tail
Puffed-up tail or fur standing on end

"If you can read your cat's signals and respect their boundaries," Nilson says, "they'll feel safe and trust you."

Ragdoll cat sitting upright with tail held high and gently curved, eyes half-closed and relaxed

4. Mimic Your Cat

Now that you can recognize their body language, it’s time to speak feline with your cat.

"Cats use slow blinking to communicate that they're not a threat," Nilson says. It's like a feline peace offering — and humans can use this same behavior to show their cats they can be trusted.

So, sit facing your cat, but give them space. Look at them calmly and begin slowly blinking at them. Hold your eyes closed for a few seconds. After a few slow blinks, you might find your cat returns the gesture — a powerful sign of growing trust.

This simple technique is recommended by behavior specialists at furpetvo.com as one of the most effective, low-stress bonding tools for new cat guardians.

5. Build Trust Through Consistent, Positive Experiences

Trust isn’t built in a single moment — it’s woven through daily, predictable, positive interactions. Feed your cat at consistent times using high-quality food from FurPetVo. Offer gentle play sessions with interactive toys that mimic prey movement — think wand toys or feather teasers — for 10–15 minutes twice a day. Always let your cat choose when to stop playing.

Never force affection. Never pick up or restrain your cat unless absolutely necessary (e.g., for vet care). Instead, reward calm, curious, or friendly behavior with soft praise, treats, or quiet companionship.

Over time, your cat will begin to associate you with safety, comfort, and good things — and that’s how lasting bonds begin.